“Don’t stress the little things” and other tips, courtesy of four newly married Metro Detroit ladies
By Chelsie Dzbanski
Wedding Date: September 28, 2019
Wedding venue/location: Zingerman’s Cornman Farms
1. What is your number one piece of advice for someone who is planning a wedding? It’s so hard to narrow this answer down to one. The most important piece of advice that I can share is to let it be yours. This is your day. It belongs to you so make it your own. There will be a ton of external influences that will pop up along the way. Don’t let others influence your decisions as it is not their day. Looking back on planning, I was nervous to deny people who made a financial contribution to our day. It’s nice to hear people’s input and advice but try not to let them make the final decisions. The only thing that matters is that you are married and had the best time at your wedding because it was exactly how you envisioned.
2. If you could go back and do anything differently, what would it be and why? If I could go back, I would have a tiny wedding. My husband and I both have huge families and a ton of friends so we started with an original guest list of 300. We quickly learned that the cost was adding up. We decided to invite 250 guests and ended up with a total of 200. Although it was nice to include everyone, it was not necessary. My mind always go back to the financial commitment of our wedding and I wonder if that money could have been used for our first home or our future trips abroad. Regardless, our wedding day was still the most beautiful day and, by far, the best day of our lives.
3. Share your favorite moment from your wedding or wedding planning process. My favorite and most memorable moment was the very last one of the evening. At the end of the night, our closest friends and family were the last ones standing on the dance floor. Our DJ, Lufru Entertainment, announced that the next song would be the last. A minute later, he blasted “Mr. Brightside” by The Killers. Yes, this was the last song of the night. Everyone started screaming the lyrics and jumping up and down. We were in the upper level of the barn and the floor was literally moving. In that moment, I remember screaming the words, smiling, and thinking ‘what a time’. After over a year of planning this day, it was closed with a song that brought so much joy. It was the happiest and one of the most raw moments. A completely spontaneous moment turned out to be the best and one that will stay with us forever.
Wedding Date: January 17, 2020
Wedding venue/location: Barcelo Maya Palace Grand Resort in Riviera Maya, Mexico
1. What is your number one piece of advice for someone who is planning a wedding? Follow what is truly in your heart and what your significant other will love the most for your special day. My husband and I absolutely love to travel, so being able to combine our love for travel with our wedding was an absolute no-brainer for us. At the end of the day it is your wedding and nobody else’s. The whole experience should be exactly what you two dream of, whether that is a big wedding, a small wedding, a destination wedding or an elopement.
2. If you could go back and do anything differently, what would it be and why? I wouldn’t have stressed so much about how others felt about us doing a destination wedding. There were a few moments where the complaints or pushback we received from some people made us consider changing our plans, but at the end of the day everything worked out perfectly. Everyone that was the most important to us made sure that they were there!
3. Share your favorite moment from your wedding or wedding planning process. We got to share not only our wedding, but an entire vacation with all of our closest family and friends. I kept thinking how we would have never had all these people together in Mexico to make all of these memories with had we not chosen to do a destination wedding. We had the most beautiful wedding by the beach surrounded by palm trees and also made days worth of memories with friends and family that we will never forget!
Wedding Date: January 4, 2020
Wedding venue: Trinity Lutheran Church and Cherry Creek Golf Club
1. What is your number one piece of advice for someone who is planning a wedding? Remember what the day is truly about: you and your spouse. Be willing to splurge on the things that matter to you and don’t stress the little things that you feel like you’re supposed to do. If you don’t care about flowers, you don’t have to. If you don’t like cake, find a different dessert. There are so many other things that your guests will remember about that day. If at the end of it all, you and your significant other are married, the day was a success.
2. If you could go back and do anything differently, what would it be and why? Honestly, there isn’t much I would change. It really was the best day of our lives. The only thing I regret not doing is having the photographer go around to take pictures of the guests at each table.
3. Share your favorite moment from your wedding or wedding planning. There are two moments that really stand out in my mind: walking down the aisle and the speeches at the reception. It’s an indescribable feeling to sit in a room surrounded by everyone you love and listen, laugh, and cry with them.
Wedding Date: September 5, 2019
Wedding venue: Planterra Conservatory
1. What is your number one piece of advice for someone who is planning a wedding? My biggest piece of advice for someone who is currently planning a wedding is to make a realistic list of things you must have to make your big day feel super special. So whether that’s specific flowers, the perfect venue or an open bar, give yourself those things and don’t compromise. Everything else, try not to stress about. Only you will notice the tiny details. Your guests are there to celebrate your union and have fun!
2. If you could go back and do anything differently, what would it be and why? It would be to take more professional photos with my photographer. I missed a lot of photos with guests because we never left the dance floor. You could say that’s a good thing, though. A shot list is so important and ensures you don’t miss any photos.
3. Share your favorite moment from your wedding or wedding planning. My favorite moment was the reading of our personal vows. The waterworks were flowing, our guests were sobbing and it felt like it was just the two of us in the entire venue. They were original, funny and incredibly special.
Check out Alexa and Cortez Settles’ wedding story featured in the February issue of SEEN!